Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Masturbation - The History

We all know what it is, manipulating your genitals to the point of intense pleasure or orgasm.

While masturbation can involve another person, most think of it as a very private act.

According to some health care providers masturbation allows a healthy way to express and explore your sexuality and to release sexual tension without all the associated risks of sexual intercourse.

Health professionals generally agree that this private touching is a natural, normal mode of self-exploration and sexual expression.

Most surveys suggest that approximately 94% of teenage males "admitted" that they masturbated and about 70% of teen females "admitted" to it too.

This is great that teens are finally able to do the deed without guilt. Hopefully this will cut down the rate of teenage pregnancies.

Teaching Masturbation?

In the 1970s and 1980s, a woman named Betty Dodson, Ph.D., achieved much fame from her approach to masturbation.

She held classes for women to teach them how to masturbate. Dodson believed women needed to overcome certain degrees of repression instilled by the church.

Interesting??

In 1994 Dr. Jocelyn Elders, the second woman appointed to the position of U.S. Surgeon General, lost her job as Surgeon General because she dared to say that masturbation should actually be taught in schools.

Her Mistake

Was probably when she said, "It's practicing for sex."

History of Masturbation:

Around the turn-of-the-century, some adults were so against masturbation that they forced their daughters to wear gloves made of a steel-wool-like material (like Brillo pads) at night so they wouldn't touch.

They made their sons wear metal chastity belts to cause a painful erection.

During the 1820s, some parents prevented male masturbation by piercing the foreskin with a wire and soldering the ends together. Boys and girls were discouraged from masturbation by the threat of blindness, madness and illness.

All kinds of chastity belts and other devices were used to prevent masturbation, probably as far back in history as you can go.

This will vary from culture to culture

Leigh Reeves
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Managing Editor - http://www.getintimate.org

Why Masturbation Can Be Bad For Men

Most men and a lot of woman these days masturbate for sexual pleasure. These days there is a lot less taboos against masturbation. However, how many books have you seen lately about sex compared to any books about masturbation? And how often have you talked to your friends about masturbation?

Most teens tend to masturbate every day. Generally, they take 5 minutes or so and use high friction strokes. Most teenagers have some embarrassment about masturbation. They do not want their parents to find out about his aspect of their sexuality.

So they make no sounds of pleasure and hide the activity away. Usually there is some fantasy involved and very little connection to their emotions and heart. Unfortunately, the teen gets in a habitual habit of having an orgasm quickly.

I personally know all of the above because it is my own experience too.

Now, when the teen makes love for the first time, he continues the habits he has taught his body over hundreds of masturbation sessions. He comes in a few minutes, he had closed eyes, he uses high friction porn style of lovemaking and he makes no sounds at all. Unfortunately these habits persist as he gets older.

Sex survey after Survey shows that the average time of intercourse for men is about 7 minutes. The funny thing is that this figure is pretty much the same in every country surveyed form the USA, India to France.
Unfortunately, most women hate this style of lovemaking. I attended a Tantra workshop the other day and 20 women were asked to describe what type of lovemaking they enjoyed the most and 18 out of 20 described a style of slow, connected and deep.

Compare that style of lovemaking to the usual porn. Clearly, if a man comes in 7 minutes, most women are gong to feel unsatisfied. A boring, short sex life is one of the main reasons women have affairs.

As a sexologist, I talk to men about their sex life. One thing I like to ask is do they like their lovers to make sounds of pleasure and express the orgasmic energy by their voice. Just about every one says they love their lovers to be vocal and hate silent women as lovers.

I then ask them if they make sounds. If they do not, I say, why the F not and why they want something from their lover that they do not do themselves.

Usually, this early masturbation practice taught them not to make sounds and they continued this practice to date. It can be a real challenge to break this pattern.

Another aspect that can be difficult for men to relearn is about emotional connection. Women love a man that connects with his eyes and they can feel his heart and love.

Now, most of us do not masturbate in front of a mirror with thoughts of self love. However, this practice could be of value. How about masturbating with an attitude of loving oneself instead of a porn type fantasy?

Another thing that women love is that a man is present. This means that the man is not in his head in a fantasy or being goal focused. Most women are very sensitive and can pick up on this straight away. So being present really just means being in your body, its pleasure and energy. When men do this, the women can feel the man more and this allows them to let go more.

Tantra looks at partner connection and being totally open. These skills can take time to learn as we are taught to be closed emotionally.

I hope you enjoyed these tips on how masturbation can transform your sex life.

Maurice Tate

Maurice Tate is a qualified sexologist trained at the Advanced Institute of Sexology. See Sexuality Tips and Tantra Online Course

Editor comment: Tantric Yoga can be used for learning autofellatio in the book Yogafellatio.